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[SOLD OUT!] BRIC Arts Media Presents: Hosting for Radio w/Raqiyah Mays

Posted in How to Be Empowerment Workshops, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , on December 12, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

My friends at BRIC Arts Media have invited me to provide tips to the public on how to be a radio personality. The event is free. Check the info below and RSVP HERE!

Hosting for Radio w/ Raqiyah Mays

Thursday, Dec 15, 2016

6:00 PM

The Media Center at BRIC House

647 Fulton Street 2nd Floor

Brooklyn, NY

RSVP HERE

Are you in the process of developing your new podcast? Learn industry tips to build and engage your audience from WBLS’s own Raqiyah Mays.

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Raqiyah Mays is a radio personality, author, journalist, and activist with over 20 years of experience in the entertainment industry. Mays work in journalism extends back to when Quincy Jones owned Vibe Magazine. Mays’ bylines graced cover stories for publications like XXL, The Source, and Billboard. A writer by nature, her debut fiction novel, The Man Curse was released on November 16, 2015. From marching in Ferguson, MO to Baltimore and attending protests in NYC, Raqiyah’s activism spans from events to social media with regular updates on nation-wide cases of injustice on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

We’ll be streaming this Media Talks event via FACEBOOK LIVE on the Brooklyn Free Speech Facebook Page (@BFreeBK).

We’ll start the live stream at 5:55PM w/ the event starting shortly thereafter. Please arrive to The Media Center (Television Studio A) at BRIC Arts | Media House (647 Fulton Street, Brooklyn, New York 11217) by 5:30pm, latest.
Light refreshments will be served.
ABOUT THE MEDIA TALKS SERIES
Media Talks features professional television producers, directors, documentary filmmakers, video editors, and new media producers sharing their perspectives and stories with the Brooklyn community. These lively and inspiring discussions are held throughout the borough and air on our Brooklyn Free Speech channels. Media Talks are always free and open to the public.

TELL ME MORE ABOUT BROOKLYN FREE SPEECH
Brooklyn Free Speech is a New York Emmy-nominated community television network that amplifies and honors alternative voices in media. We serve as a creative space for novice and seasoned television artists and filmmakers to learn, create, and share their talents with the world. Learn how you can share your voice with Brooklyn, and beyond at BRICartsmedia.org/BFreeBK.

Venue Information:
The Media Center gives Brooklynites the tools and know-how to professionally create and cablecast their own television programs on the New York Emmy-nominated Brooklyn Free Speech, and produces non-commercial television programs that reflect the borough’s diversity of thought and culture. We provide a voice for Brooklynites just like you to air their hopes, dreams, and aspirations to the world.

The Media Center provides all Brooklynites with access to television studio facilities, equipment, and free or low-cost media training. We are located in the heart of the Downtown Brooklyn Cultural District at BRIC Arts | Media House, 647 Fulton Street.

 

#Memories Circle of Sisters 2016

Posted in The Man Curse, Uncategorized, WBLS FM with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on October 26, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

I had so much fun with my WBLS, Hot 97, and WLIB family taking over NYC’s Jacob Javitz Center for Circle of Sisters 2016. The yearly black women’s empowerment event attracts thousands for two, jam-packed, days of panels, performances, celebrity sightings, interviews, and an indoor flea market vibe packed with countless booths selling products appealing to today’s black woman. Not only did I get to sell my novel “The Man Curse” in the special “Meet Your DJ” Booth (Heyyy! :=). I also shared the stage with Common in an intimate one-on-one about his album “Black America Again” with a surprise visit on-stage by The Rev. Al Sharpton. CHECK THE INTERVIEW HERE: Common talks the 13th Documentary and has message for Black Youth.

Besides that? Tons of pics taken with my co-workers, fans, a few celebrities, and just pure fun. Check the pics below!

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Amazing time on stage building with Common and Rev. Al Sharpton.

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Common’s post interview selfie on-stage with the ladies at Circle of Sisters.

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One of my favorite pics of the weekend with some of my co-workers at WBLS (L to R) @DrBobLee, @AnnTrip @DahvedLevy @shailakiss @dejavuspeaks @LennyGreen

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Had a hilarious WBLS.com interview with Kym Whitley.

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Black Girl Magic galore with Deja Vu and Okema T. Moore.

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Couldn’t help cheesing with Common. I mean, c’mon…

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Met Beyoncé’s dad, Matthew Knowles.  Convo surprised me too. Was inspiring…

Posing with the homie and radio OG Jeff Foxx.

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Hopped On-air to chat it up real quick with Jeff Foxx. Bugsy looking good in those headshots too! lol

Had a fun convo on-air with Keke Wyatt about her upcoming album, 8 kids, Marriage Bootcamp, and love.

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Broadcasted Live from the Javitz Center.

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Love my DJs. Posing with DJ Sir Charles and DJ S1.

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This was part of my fly sister crew working The Man Curse table at booth 112. We Sold LOTS of books!

Pics with just a few new book-buying fans. #TheManCurse

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Posing at the “Meet Your DJ” booth with Shaila, Deja Vu, & Lenny Green.

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Family came to show love and support today. This is my mom (right) and Godmom (left)

 

 

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#TBT Throwback Thursday Radio Memory

Posted in Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , on October 20, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

Throwback. Early 2000-something. 2008 maybe?? Feel good memory from my morning show co-host days on the late 98.7 Kiss FM with Talent & Bob Slade. We repped Newark NJ playing in a celebrity softball game for charity. I almost forgot about this until Carlos Los Gonzalez tagged me in this pic. :+) #RememberTheTime

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107.5 WBLS Memorial Day Weekend [RECAP]

Posted in Uncategorized, WBLS FM with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on June 2, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

Had so much FUN all Memorial Day weekend cracking the mic during the 107.5 WBLS Mixmaster’s Weekend. Saturday – Monday I rocked to the turntable scratches of everyone from DJ Red Alert, Marley Marl, and DJ Enuff, to up and comers like DJ Jon Quick & DJ Ran. Plus I got to hold down my old Wake Up Club Family from 98.7 Kiss FM Jeff Foxx & Shaila! #Fun

Check the pics and videos from my facebook page below!

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Me & the legendary DJ Red Alert rocked the mic on Memorial Day. Check our video below from Facebook Live!

 

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When you throw the sunglasses on, head to the studio at 9am, hop on the mic, and take a selfie with DJ Jon Quick. Shades on cause you’ve been up all night and look like it. LOL Was tired…

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Had waaaay too much fun in the studio smiling and building with fellow Jersey born DJ Ran. He won a contest that landed him on WBLS. Good vibe. good energy. He made the video of our day on air below…

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Jersey takeover on the radio with another Jersey mixer, DJ Bookeem.

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Being on the radio is so much fun!

 

5 Tips to Finding a Therapist: Leading You to Love of Self [Words by Raqiyah Mays]

Posted in Leading You to Love, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , on May 12, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

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It can be a dirty word in some circles: Therapy. Shows like Empire touch on it. Illustrating how the sound of hearing that someone needs professional help, makes some suck their teeth and roll their eyes with disbelief. When it comes to the black community, therapy is a bad word that needs to be turned good.

According to research at the Stanford University School of Medicine, therapy works. In one study, 75% of patients improved emotionally after 6 months of seeing a psychologist. 50% showed improvement after only eight sessions. But therapy isn’t just helpful for depression or anxiety. It can also get to the root of healing problems related to numerous things – from repeated lateness, anger, trust, or control issues, to work-related fear, insecurity, and cycles of relationship dysfunction. Speaking to someone unrelated and completely objective, gives a fresh, unfiltered, and trained ear to help resolve difficulties that we can’t and shouldn’t have to deal with alone.

Sure, friends can help by listening and offering advice. But they’re not doctors trained in psychology. Talking to the wrong person can inadvertently cause deeper wounds. So it’s important to search for a therapist like you prepare to buy a car. Research and shopping around are key.

Here are 5 tips to finding the right therapist for you:

1. Referrals – Ask friends and family if they can refer someone. If no one in your circle can help, skip to tip #2.

2. Research – Call and ask your health insurance provider for a list of therapists in your network. If you don’t have insurance (*I’ll explain what to do later in this article) Go to Psychology Today’s Therapy Finder or use the American Psychological Association’s Psychologist Locator Service to type in your zip code for someone near you. During this research, decide if you want a male or female therapist. Gender matters when it comes to comfort.

3. InterviewAll doctors are not created equal. When you find a list of therapists in your area, make a list of questions to ask before you call them. This phone call is the interview where you essentially make sure you should hire them for the job.  Ask about their certifications, years of practice, and areas of specialty. Do they specialize in the area you’re seeking to heal? Have they worked with others like you?  What treatments have they used? How much do they charge? *Some therapists will see you, even if you don’t have health insurance, by providing a sliding scale for payments based on your income.

4. Pay Attention – Pay attention to how you feel during this phone call. Do you feel comfortable talking to them? Do they sound kind and patient or rushed and short? Did they return your initial call promptly within 24 hours? You want someone who is gentle, respects, and values your time. Use your intuition. Process how you feel. Then Google them.

5. The In-person Interview – Seeing them in-person is when you make the final decision if this is the right therapist for you. It might take 1-3 sessions to figure it out. Make a mental note of what they do: Did they arrive on-time? (I once had a therapist who showed up late to more than one session. Yikes!)  Did they give you their full attention or were they checking emails or their phone? Did you feel comfortable speaking to them in person? Nervousness is normal. But the right therapist will eventually make you feel safe enough to open up during a typical 1-hour session.

A bad encounter with an irresponsible psychologist doesn’t mean that they all suck. All doctors are not created equal. Keep in mind that it’s normal to feel fear and embarrassment during the search process. These feelings might momentarily prevent you from calling a therapist. But as you deal with these emotions, remember that you’re loving yourself by seeking to heal yourself. With work, all wounds can heal.

TO READ MORE GO TO: WBLS.COM

WBLS’ very own Raqiyah Mays is an author, journalist, and empowerment activist. Her debut “Self-help” fiction novel “The Man Curse” (Simon & Schuster Digital) is available for digital download at themancurse.com.

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Heroines of Excellence Awards

Posted in The Man Curse, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on April 5, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

March 29, 2016: A Tuesday night to remember, the Heroines of Excellence Awards were amazing. I was honored along with so many powerful ladies making a difference in the world. Thank you to founder Jon Quick, Syreta J. Oglesby, dope host sister girl/WBLS co-worker Deja Vu, and everyone who made it a beautiful night.

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  Sat my award on the mantle as soon as I got home. Isn’t it nice? Thanks Jon Quick.

 

Posing with Heroines Posing on stage with my fellow fly honorees and our swag bags.

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With the heads of NYC’S Urban Resource Institute, Carla and Shannon, who help save domestic abuse survivors, children, and their pets. They received a donation last night. #Dope

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Posing with my new friend, civil rights attorney Veronica Dunlap.

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She’s part of the reason I have a  deal with Simon and Shuster. Another power lady in the house showing support, Sabrina Lamb.

 

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Smiling hard on the red carpet like I do.

#BreakTheManCurse #81

Posted in The Man Curse with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 23, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

#BreakTheManCurse #81: Life can replace loss with someone you never dreamed of having. #BeInspired #TheManCurse
Purchase and Download at themancurse.com OR Amazon http://ow.ly/ZJz70

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Leading You to Love of Self: How to Begin to Trust

Posted in The Man Curse, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on March 20, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

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By Raqiyah Mays

Trust. The issue so many of us have. If people are too generous? We question them. Too happy? We wonder why? If they ask for a handout? We side-eye. But why?

Typically it’s because we’ve been let down in the past. That friend we loaned money to never paid us back. That boy who said he loved us was cheating behind our backs. That promotion we were gunning for, went to the shady lady who used her body as ammunition.

Sometimes these trust issues run deeper taking us back to childhood. Dad didn’t stop by when he said he would. Mom was late picking us up from school, yet again. All of these instances help to subconsciously solidify feelings of abandonment and the ability to trust one’s word. If you can’t trust family, trusting anyone not blood becomes even more difficult.

But how do we trust? It’s difficult. Learning this isn’t achieved overnight. It’s a process that begins in the mirror. In the book, “Calling in the One,” author Katherine Woodward Thomas writes:  “When we lie to ourselves, we sever ourselves from the source of our power – our own inner truth. We becomes fragmented and discordant within,” she writes. “When we say one thing and then do another, say things that we don’t really mean, or consistently break our word to both ourselves and others, we profoundly diminish our capacity to create the lives that we are hoping to create.”

Deep, right? We can’t change the past or what happened with our family. But we can change ourselves. We can show ourselves integrity and witness the empowering energy of honesty that follows from there. At the root, this begins with telling ourselves the truth. Even in the smallest things from promising to go to bed daily at 11pm. To even larger goals, like writing that book or looking for that new job. When we don’t follow through with what we tell ourselves we’re going to do, we end up unhappy, “fragmented,” and our energy is drained in the same way we feel when someone lies to us.

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WBLS’ very own Raqiyah Mays is an author, journalist, and empowerment activist. Her debut “Self-help” fiction novel “The Man Curse” (Simon & Schuster) is available for digital download at themancurse.com.

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Leading You to Love of Self: How to Find Confidence

Posted in The Man Curse, Uncategorized with tags , , , , , , , on March 9, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

 

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By Raqiyah Mays

I wasn’t always confident. Like many women, I’d dim my light and numb my voice to let others speak. I’d play the back and pretend to be more comfortable in silence rather than stepping to the front. I remember coming up with reasons to not share accomplishments: “I don’t want anyone to think I’m bragging.”

So I became a talented shadow artist. Defined by author Julia Cameron in The Artist’s Way, shadow artists are those who are “Too intimidated to become artists themselves, very often low in self-worth to even recognize that they have an artistic dream, these people become shadow artists instead…. Shadow artists are to be found shadowing declared artists.”

I did this for years in journalism. Interviewing those I secretly wanted to be like. Those who were unafraid to be themselves. Fearless in self-promotion. Dazzling in standing out, speaking out loud, doing what needed to be done. I quietly admired them while secretly criticizing myself for not being brave enough to take the leap to be like them and follow dreams unapologetically.

The truth is that even in my new found confidence, where I am now living my dream of being an author, speaking regularly, living in my purpose of motivating, informing and inspiring, I still battle fear. The truth is that nearly every single day, I have to give myself a pep talk to channel the courage needed to step into the light alone, share personal insecurities, and give advice gained from hindsight 20/20 vision. But I’m not alone. With research (yes, I researched confidence) I found that other powerful women are just like me. They too feel fears. They too have moments of self-doubt. They too battle insecurities. It’s normal.

So now, I make a daily conscious choice to remind myself of the famous Nelson Mandela quote: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us,” he said.  “We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

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WBLS’ very own Raqiyah Mays is an author, journalist, and empowerment activist. Her debut “Self-help” fiction novel “The Man Curse” (Simon & Schuster) is available for digital download at themancurse.com.

 

My First Official Workshop: Leading You to Love of Self

Posted in The Man Curse with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , on February 25, 2016 by Raqiyah Mays

This week’s appearance was at a Domestic Violence shelter in Brooklyn, funded by URI, an organization that provides shelter to women, children, & their pets in secret locations across NYC. Pictures weren’t allowed. So here’s the scene: Tears, testifying, hugs, & thanks coming from women – millennials to baby boomers – and their social workers after I gave my first official “Leading You to Love of Self” workshop. “It was empowering.” “I’m inspired.” “Thank you.” “Where can I get your book?” “When are you coming back?” All quotes that made me smile and know very clearly that my job was not only well done. But necessary and completely fulfilling of what I am now very clear is God’s purpose for me. ‪#‎Empowerment‬ ‪#‎TheManCurse‬ ‪#‎Amen

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