8 Steps to Purge & Let “it” Go

How to Let it Go

By Raqiyah Mays

Spring is the perfect time for cleaning out the old and starting anew. This begins inside the home and spreads to inside the heart. There’s power in letting “it” go. Removing the cluttered angry memories of a relationship gone wrong. Purging oneself of the resentment felt from an ungrateful former employer. Forgiving the parent who wasn’t around physically or emotionally. Books and experts boast pages filled with words and simple phrases like, “Let it go.” Saying this can be easier than actually doing it. Although there is one technique many, including myself, have successfully used to help to let “it” go.

·      Burn It

I’m not saying to burn it like Angela Bassett in Waiting to Exhale where she torched her cheating husband’s car and marched away with a hand thrown up in sophistication. No. This technique is less angry. Very legal. And historically sacred. The power in burning the unwanted is at the center of worldwide traditions to bring in the new. In Ecuador, scarecrows are burned on New Year’s Eve to represent the cleansing of negativity from one’s life. In Scotland, a torch lit procession lights up the streets as fireballs are swung over heads to represent sunshine and the burning of the old. In Colombia, families put fire to objects placed in a bag that they choose to remove from their lives. Here in America, Black Enterprise opened their women’s summit last year with a ceremony dedicated to burning unwanted habits and circumstances written on tiny pieces of paper by ladies in attendance.

Here’s how it works:

1)    Write down the names of those you feel have wronged you. Give every name their own separate column.

2)    Next to each name, write what you’re accusing them of.

3)    After every accusation, write each emotion you were made to feel because of these actions.

4)    Write how you wish the situation had gone. This includes what you wish you had done to defend yourself. Or what you wish you hadn’t done to contribute to the situation.

5)    Afterwards, write “I forgive [PLACE NAME OF PERSON HERE] and let it go for the greater good.”

6) When done…


WBLS’ very own Raqiyah Mays is an author, journalist, and empowerment activist. Her debut “Self-help” fiction novel “The Man Curse” (Simon & Schuster) is available for digital download at themancurse.com.

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